Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program

17th November 2022

Dear Couple,

When people initially seek remedy for physical, verbal and emotional abuse in their lives, they long to find an intervention that helps them salvage their relationship. We see this all the time, even at the police station.

Abuse survivors show up, with or without their abused children, and plead to police officers to help them stop the abuse. They say, “No, I don’t want to file a complaint; I just want to end the domestic abuse.”

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This is natural. It is understandable. What they really want is the dream they hold, the love they once had, the family they know. They want peace and well-being, AND they want it with their intimate partners.

They reach out to law enforcement and healthcare for a remedy for the abuse that infects their intimate relationship, yet all too often all they hear is “leave your battering spouse, before the abuse spirals out of control.”

While this may be the proper avenue of remedy at some juncture, (once entrenched in the cycle of domestic abuse), it’s usually not the first option one desires or would choose.

Accordingly, we offer you a “tried and true” treatment intervention, designed to help you and your partner break the cycle of domestic abuse in your relationship…And alternatively cultivate a relationship atmosphere of mutual respect, honoring and support free of interactional violence and victimization.

This program was designed by Dr. Jeanne King, who has been helping people identify, end and heal from domestic abuse for over two decades. Dr. King serves as a consulting expert on both civil and criminal cases of intimate partner violence and is the leading authority on identifying the subtle communication patterns of narcissistically abusive intimate relationships. For more on Dr. King’s experience and background, please see About Dr. King https://InnerSanctuaryOnline.org

 

End Intimate Partner Abuse in Your Relationship before It Spirals Out of Control

The Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program is a finely tuned domestic violence treatment protocol, integrating a psycho-educational intervention promoting change for batterers and a psychotherapeutic intervention facilitating healing for domestic abuse survivors.

For the Batterer

The Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program provides men and women, who have been abusive in their intimate relationships, an opportunity to change their violent abusive behavior.

The intervention consists of education, support and therapeutic components that address the maladaptive use of power and control in relationships. The primary treatment goal is the development of new skills to facilitate non-violent and non-abusive behavioral responses with their intimate partner.

For the Victim/Survivor

The Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program offers healing remedies for the domestic abuse survivor. It provides the victim with the awareness of what maintains the cycle of abuse and effective strategies to interrupt the insidious cycle.

Healing from domestic abuse is paramount to the treatment. Survivors completing the intervention mend their psychological scars and the emotional pain from being battered, while changing the habits of victimization and patterns of co-dependency.

“Thank you so very much for the tremendous help you have given along the way. Your insights have been life changing. I truly don’t believe we would be where we are without your expertise and guidance. You were my last hope. And it worked.” Anonymous Participant in Domestic Abuse Treatment Program

 

“My wife and I are traveling and I had a chance to read your article on hearing “no” this morning. Two years ago, that article may have bothered me, but with your help and that of my self-help practices, I found myself cheering you on as I read through it.” Anonymous Male Participant

 

“I know how to resolve conflict in a constructive manner now without being violent or abusive.” Anonymous Male Participant

 

“Ever since I realized what you meant by accountability, I don’t mouth off at her when I’m vulnerable. We are practicing ‘fair fighting.’ Thank you for helping us save our family.” Anonymous Male Participant

 

“I am stronger and happier, and people tell me they see me being myself again.” Anonymous Female Participant

 

“Just know you gave me immense strength and clarity in every session that has carried over into my everyday life so that I don’t feel like a victim but more like a woman who can distinguish with clarity what is being done to her.” Anonymous Female Participant

 

“I hated the way I treated my spouse, but didn’t know how to do it differently. This program has given me the skills I need to make the changes.” Anonymous Male Participant

 

“I know now that I had no right to scare her. This should be taught in high school.” Anonymous Male Participant

 

“I am grateful that over time that you helped me discover that even in the most volatile/dangerous situations, that I am not powerless! And in those turbulent times…I either have the choice to contribute to the escalation of the situation or more importantly, the power in my case, to deescalate the situation and keep myself, my husband and those I love safe.” Anonymous Female Participant

 

How the Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program Works

This intervention is specifically designed to interrupt the cycle of domestic abuse and heal the injuries caused by intimate partner violence. Unlike traditional marital therapy, each person engages in the therapeutic process individually, as well as with their partner as a couple.

This treatment is in no way an opportunity to hide behind the abuse dynamic nor manipulate the therapist to side with either party. Instead, each person is expected to utilize their individual therapeutic alliance to their own personal benefit as they take responsibility for their respective growth, healing and change.

What the Batterer Can Expect

The primary focus of the Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program for the batterer is becoming aware of and accountable for their experience, their behavior and the impact of their actions on others.

Through the process of experiential, cognitive insight-oriented therapy and intensive inquiry, participants recognize how the use of “power and control” tactics foster interpersonal conflict. As they progress through successful completion of the program, they cultivate strategies for establishing and maintaining relationship harmony.

Mutual respect and mutual regard are key learning and healing outcomes of the Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program.  In addition to the obvious relationship benefit, participants appreciate the positive changes they experience from within and the transformative effect this has on their lives in general.

What the Abused Can Expect

The victim’s process is parallel and collaborative to their partner’s treatment, while individually transformative. The focus of their intervention is healing from the impact of abuse and interrupting the abuse dynamic.

The abused learns the subtle communication patterns of battering relationships, along with what supports and what interrupts the abuse dynamic. Their heightened awareness prevents reflexive habits of victimization and interactional patterns of co-dependency.

The therapy often involves finding her/his own inner voice through a systematic process of psychotherapeutic inquiry. The patient develops the capacity to access their own internal truth, and cultivates the ability to express their feelings accurately and express their needs effectively.

Domestic abuse survivors participating in this therapeutic process heal the impact of interpersonal violation, build self-esteem and self-confidence, and grow to embrace that which they love in their intimate relationship.

Frequently Asked Questions about the Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program

1) Are emotional abuse and verbal abuse regarded as domestic abuse/violence?

Yes. Emotional abuse and verbal abuse are forms domestic abuse and, in fact, are the most common forms of intimate partner abuse also known as domestic violence.

2) I am looking for help with domestic abuse, yet my partner is in complete denial. How can I get him/her to benefit from this, much less participate in it?

The denial is the resistance, which is very normal before and beginning treatment. Effective therapy is designed to address this. So, you acknowledge that your partner’s denial is part of the abuse dynamic, and you expect effective therapy to dismantle it. You start the therapy by yourself and let the therapist help engage your partner in the process. We are trained in dealing with denial and resistance.

3) My partner thinks I’m the problem, so how will I get my partner to see otherwise?

You won’t. And the more you try, the more resistant your partner will be.

However, you can get yourself involved in the domestic abuse therapeutic process and then encourage your partner to do likewise for the sake of your relationship. During the process of therapy, the therapist will confront your partner making you “the problem.”

Currently, your partner may think you are the problem when, in fact, his/her response to you is the problem. A cornerstone of your partner’s part in the therapy is their taking responsibility for their own behavior.

4) What if my partner is threatened by a therapeutic relationship that could empower me and over which he has no control?

We recommend that you begin the program individually just as you may have previously initiated marital therapy. We understand your partner’s resistance and the underlying dynamics in play. We will work to bring him into the sessions with you to engage his involvement in his own therapeutic process.

This program will actually help your partner understand and resolve his being threatened by your empowerment. The ultimate goal of the program is for him to become an ally in the process of your empowerment and you in his.

5) What is the difference between Marital Therapy and Domestic Abuse Therapy as a treatment for domestic violence?

Marital Therapy encourages the victim to assume some of the responsibility for the battering behavior. And in so doing, it discourages the abuser from becoming fully accountable for his/her battering behavior. The net result is that this intervention maintains, and can even exacerbate, the abuse dynamic.

Domestic Abuse Therapy, on the other hand, is designed to promote batterer accountability for abusive behavior, and help the abuser develop nonviolent/non-abusive alternative behaviors to utilize in all domestic situations.

6) What is the difference between Anger Management Treatment and Domestic Abuse Treatment?

Anger Management Treatment primarily addresses the modulation of emotion and modification of behavior when an individual is emotionally escalated.

Domestic Abuse Treatment, while addressing the above issues, differs significantly from Anger Management Treatment in that it focuses extensively on the dynamics of abusive power and control tactics used in domestic relationships.

7) I’ve heard that once an abuser, always an abuser. Do you have some examples of batterers who change through domestic abuse therapy?

Good point. Yes, we do. Rest assured that change is possible, but highly unlikely without an effective treatment intervention. It is also important to be mindful of the situations in which change can occur and those in which it is not likely to occur.

To provide you with examples of batterer’s successful treatment outcome through a domestic violence intervention, see sample case studies highlighting core issues:

Successful Outcome in Domestic Abuse Therapy Despite Initial Denial: A Case Study

Breaking the Cycle of Emotional and Verbal Abuse in Marriage: A Case Study

Domestic Abuse Treatment Addresses Abuser’s Emotional Dependence: A Case Study

Domestic Violence Treatment Stops Domestic Terror: A Case Study

Taking Responsibility and Meaningful Change in Domestic Abuse Therapy: A Case Study

Domestic Abuse Counseling Reframes Privileged Thinking: A Case Study

Domestic Violence Counseling Improves Intimate Partner Communication Skills: A Case Study

8) How long is the Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program?

The base program is 26 individual weekly sessions. Additional individual and/or joint sessions with your intimate partner are provided as needed to meet the goals of the intervention.

9) Do I have to take the whole program?

Not necessarily. While the general expectation for success with this intervention is to complete the entire program, there may be individual cases where segments of the program are sufficient.

10) How are the sessions conducted?

All sessions take place on the telephone or via Zoom.

11) How long is each session?

The typical session duration is one therapeutic hour (50 to 60 minutes).

12) What is the cost of the program?

The program is billed session by session, payable monthly, and the cost is $175 for the initial consultation and $250 per individual 50-minute sessions thereafter. Conjoint 60-minute sessions are $300. A sliding fee scale is available for those who are eligible.

13) Is this treatment program covered by healthcare insurance?

You are responsible for payment for these services. We are not staffed to assist in helping you secure reimbursement for these services.

14) Is there follow-up support after completing the program?

Yes, ongoing support is available. You can obtain follow-up sessions at varying intervals (one month, three months, six months and one year). Or, you can secure ongoing weekly, bi-monthly or as needed support to maintain your progress.

15) Is there a group support component to this program?

Not currently. However, the mechanism is in place for supplemental and aftercare support groups for both batterers and survivors.

16) How do I determine whether this program is appropriate for me and my partner?

The best way to determine program appropriateness is through an individual personal consultation. You can reserve an appointment for this session from this link below.

Initial Consultation with Dr. King – 60 minutes

We will contact you within 24-48 hours with available appointment times. Your payment reserves the consultation. We look forward to helping you.

We do not give personalized professional advice to individuals with whom we have no prior experience. If you would like us to help, simply reserve your appointment directly from this website.

If you are not able to afford private psychological services, we urge you to sign up for the InnerSanctuaryOnline.org resources. They contain a significant amount of insight from two decades of dedicated work in domestic abuse cases worldwide.

May there be peace and well-being for you and yours.

Kindest regards,

Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Partners in Prevention

Intimate partner abuse does not end without intervention.

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